When You Say I Look Good For A Woman Over 40
When you say I look good for a woman in my 40s…
Do you mean I look younger than expected?More toned, less worn, less wrinkled?
Why I don't want to empower you
I don't want to empower you.
I want to help you understand I already see your power; your inherent power that cannot be learned or earned, your power that simply is.
An Online Retreat on Ancient Chinese Divination and Chinese Astrology
If you've been studying with me in the Mystery Mentorship, particularly in the Wood + Metal Module, you'll know that a critique I have about the "new age" communities that most practices done in the West are still coming from that extractive theme of objectifying rather subjectifying. Whether it's the studying of Tarot, tea leaf reading, dream work or even astrology, the main objective is "what's in it for me / tell me what I need to know / how I do manifest the life that I want". Put it another way, learning esoteric practices, accessing ancient wisdom is not meant to function as your genie. It is not meant to be, nor can it ever truly be, colonized. The Unseen, the Great Mystery were around far before any of us arrived on the scene.
BROKENNESS: AN ANCIENT PERSPECTIVE
A Yin line according to the I Ching is visually represented by two dashes. — — Oftentimes, it's referred to as a broken line or a yielding line.
To compare that to a Yang line that is visually represented. ___It's a solid line that does not have space as an interruption.
ENOUGH TO TIDE ME OVER: Psychic Mediumship with Digital Spirits
As all children, my world was shaped by my reality and surroundings. We spent time outdoors in the nearby forest or playground with the neighbourhood kids, travelled in packs on our bikes with walkie talkies that only operated within fairly close range, but on a rainy day or when the days grew dark early, we spent time at home with the “real toys” and make shift ones.
AM I OKAY
Am I okay. As if this week was the starting place to ask this. Because the words Kung Flu has been circulating for longer than that. Because the sentiment that Northern American made somehow denotes superiour to Asian made. Because hot for an Asian or hot because I’m a fetish is supposed to be a compliment. Because I was told I had “settled” by marrying an Asian man, they said I could have “done better” by marrying white (FYI - I would marry my man again and again). Because back in the 80s, my uncles had endured burglary, and irreparable physical and psychological assault— the authorities said it was just simply being in the wrong place at the wrong time. My brother relentlessly bullied for a decade at school, and those authorities saying that’s just too bad.
I AM MY AGE
Today is my birthday. I'm 42 years of age.
Now before anyone says (and we've all said these things):
"You don't look your age"
"Forever 29"
"Still got it"
"Who's your dermatologist?"
or something similar... I would like to invite a different conversation around age.
THOUGHTS ON ANTHROPOMORPHISM
The term and idea of anthropomorphism is the attribution of human traits, feelings, intentions, or actions to non-human entities. The word is derived from ánthrōpos ("human") and morphē (“form"). Sources say that the term was first used in 1753, to reference religious heresy.
PLANT MAGICK SPOTLIGHT: BOTANICAL ASH
Botanical ash, or plant soot, rendered from fire, is the essence of a plant's spirit and a powerful tool in plant magick. Whether this is from the remnants of incense or a plant (or blend of) burned by high temperatures, the ash is a sacred and useful magickal tool.
THE HOT SAUCE IS ALIVE
The Hunan bloodline in my family loves spicy, aromatic foods. Almost every dish includes the option of hot sauce – whether it is soupy thin noodles, saucy thick noodles, sautéed greens, or braised meats. Gong Gong (my mother’s father), as well as each of his grown children (all five of them), had an entire shelf in their fridge dedicated to hot sauces of all varieties. Smoky peppers. Tangy ones. Chilis that had been fermented. Ones you had to shake because the solids sank to the bottom of the bottle with the crimson-hued chilli oil on the top. Part of this is because as with many Chinese families, there are distinct, almost fanatical, preferences of what type of hot sauce pairs best with specific dishes.
#STRAIGHTTALK ON WELLNESS & SPIRITUALITY
I can recall a time when originality, nuance, and depth were things to take pride in. In today’s culture one has to shrink it all into a generic elevator pitch or beige hashtag. We are told by marketers and influencers that what we say must be palatable for the mainstream. True stories— I’ve been told by more than one (white) female-owned “wellness” studio / space / workplace that I need to be less “intimidating” by “dumbing down” my knowledge, that by being “too myself”, I’m being too niche. These same establishments also champion themselves as feminists— #bossbabes that #manifest. As if being an entrepreneur has anything to do with gender. And as if it has anything to do with being “fuckable”. The last time I checked, basing a woman’s credibility on her body is defined as sexism.
SOOTHING SORE MUSCLES BATH
Whether your muscles are aching from raking the yard, shovelling snow, or sitting at a desk for far too long, this healing plants bath can help relieve sore muscles and joint aches.
ACKNOWLEDGING BIAS: WHAT ARE YOU CLAIMING AS MESSAGES FROM SPIRIT?
What are you claiming as messages from Spirit? How is your bias shaping your "intuitive hits"?
WALK WITH ME
Walk with me.
The apprentices within my Mystery Mentorship program are not students, and I am not their teacher. Rather, when an apprentice signs up to walk with me each Sunday, week in and week out through a single module or all 5 that spans over a year, we are stepping into an ancient commitment of personal alchemy.
WHY ONLY HONOURING THE DIVINE FEMININE IS NOT ENOUGH
In a recent session with apprentices from my Mystery Mentorship program, while we were discussing the qualities and medicines of the Elements, I went on one of my tangented rambles, this time being about the Divine Masculine. I received an overwhelming response for sharing it, and hence why I am sharing here, too.
THE AGE OF LOW CALORIE SPIRITUALITY
We know that the wellness / spirituality industry has a racism problem. But within the same wellness / spirituality circles, there exists another problem (that isn't unrelated to the former). I'd like to call it spiritual diet culture. The predominating wellness consumer wants a low calorie, low commitment, nutrient and culturally stripped healing experience that has everything to do with appearance and very little to do with the traditional spiritual practices and the peoples where they are taken from.
THERE WILL BE MESSAGES TONIGHT
The other night, when I was lying in bed with the lights out and eyes closed, about to drift off to sleep, I intuitively smelled one of my ancestors, the covers ever so slightly felt more snug around my body, and then felt a gentle warmth on my head. This is the first time I can recall this happening with the spirits, as I was being tucked in by my Ah Zoh (my great Grandmother)! And at 41 years of age, there is something rare and precious about this. To be cherished as a child in the mundane activity of going to bed.
WHAT IS SHAMANISM?
Shamanism is the oldest recorded spiritual practise found in cultures all over the world, including my own (Chinese Taiwanese). Through entering into a non-rational mind space via a number of tools such as altered breath, ecstatic dance, chanting, rattling and drumming, and the consumption of specific plants (in my case, non-entheogenic plants), the practitioner can tap into a reality (and set of brainwaves) that is broader than the mundane and access the Unseen and the Otherwordly to receive beneficial messages and then deliver them to those asking for help.