WE ARE NOT HIGH MAINTENANCE
And that's when we realized that we are not 'high maintenance', but simply hungry, living on emotional crumbs for too long, and that when we express that weI have any appetite at all, that we were being 'too much', that we need to continue to not only strive to be physically thin, but emotionally lean as well.
When You Say I Look Good For A Woman Over 40
When you say I look good for a woman in my 40s…
Do you mean I look younger than expected?More toned, less worn, less wrinkled?
CAN WE REALLY SAY 'HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMEN'S DAY'?
Centre all who identify as women.
Centre women of all ages.
Centre women of all shapes.
Centre women of all colour.
Centre women from all walks of life.
Centre matrilineal methods of circular living.
Centre the Earth herself.
#STRAIGHTTALK ON WELLNESS & SPIRITUALITY
I can recall a time when originality, nuance, and depth were things to take pride in. In today’s culture one has to shrink it all into a generic elevator pitch or beige hashtag. We are told by marketers and influencers that what we say must be palatable for the mainstream. True stories— I’ve been told by more than one (white) female-owned “wellness” studio / space / workplace that I need to be less “intimidating” by “dumbing down” my knowledge, that by being “too myself”, I’m being too niche. These same establishments also champion themselves as feminists— #bossbabes that #manifest. As if being an entrepreneur has anything to do with gender. And as if it has anything to do with being “fuckable”. The last time I checked, basing a woman’s credibility on her body is defined as sexism.
INVOKING THE CRONE
The feminist says every woman (and all who identify as) is unique and beautiful in her way, with her personal stories kept as sacred scriptures in her body, her temple.
There are feminists EVERYWHERE, in all professions. Females represent an immense pool of economic buying might, yet, it perplexes and pains me that older, naturally aging women are so little represented and embraced within media, within art, and within visible society.
THE DEATH MOTHER AND MY SELF IMAGE
There was a time when I believed I was so unattractive, that I avoided looking in a mirror and being photographed at all costs. The reminder of how I felt I looked was untouchably painful. This was my reality for all my adolescence and twenties. It had nothing to do with my waist size as I have always been slim, and I say this because while some may think that thin women have less to work through with their self image and self confidence, it was certainly not the case for me.
WHY I DON'T BELIEVE IN BALANCE
The exhortation to achieve balance is not only unrealistic, but is an insufferable demand that so many modern cultures impose on women, particularly on mothers. (This is not to discredit the demands made on men, but a) I can only speak from my personal experiences of being a woman and a mother, and b) because my husband and other male friends admit to have NEVER been asked the question I am commonly asked, “How do you find balance?”).